Parenting Children - September 16, 2012

Day 33 - Relationships with siblings and other children Part II

2. Don't try to arbitrate every fight

• give them space to work out their own disagreements
• remain impartial- don't always blame the older child or jump to conclusions
• intervene if they are hurting each other
• don't allow unkind words or bullying
• think ahead for regular issues that cause disputes: take turns when possible

Question:
What are the main causes of arguments between your children? Or between your only child and his/her friends?

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1. Recognize it’s a long process

  • typically it takes at least eighteen years!
  • help them to realize that talking through an issue that has upset them is more productive than behaving badly

2, Try to find the root cause of the anger

  • listen to your child
  • HALT – are they Hungry, Anxious, Lonely or Tired?
  • may not be easy to work out root cause – they may not know
  • if we don’t find the root cause, they can become angrier or suppress their emotions, leading to rebellion later
  • create environment of openness and honesty to encourage communication

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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