Parenting Children - September 24, 2012

Day 41 - Symptoms of Unhealthy Control

I. Micro-managing our children's lives
• helicopter parenting - hovering over our children
• children don't learn how to think for themselves

2. Being over-competitive for our children
• puts undue pressure on children

3. Overscheduling our children's lives
• can be caused by fear that our children will be left out or left behind

4. Overprotecting and rescuing our children
• leads to children not taking responsibility or learning from their mistakes
• allow children to take increasing responsibility for themselves
• pass on information and values to give them a moral framework to live by
• Helping children make good choices

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

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From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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  • read each child’s way of showing anger
  • aim to teach them “expression,” rather than aggression or “suppression”
  • help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
  • correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. – without shutting
  • them down
  • allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
  • not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
  • we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger

don’t punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way?  Why?

 

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