Parenting Children - September 20, 2012

Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10

• read each child’s way of showing anger
• aim to teach them "expression," rather than aggression or "suppression"
• help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
• correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. - without shutting them down
• allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
• not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
• we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger
• don't punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

Question:
For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way? Why?

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3. Have time together as a family

  • don’t always eat separately
  • don’t have several TVs in the house
  • organize family nights, family outings, family vacations
  • do chores together
  • allow them to have fun together, playing childish games, being silly, playing outside
  • don’t always entertain them; allow them to be bored so they make up their own games
  • have fun together as a family

4. Give each child space and some privacy

  • some children need more time on their own than others

5. Help them to see each other’s good points

  • give them a sense of responsibility to look out for each other

What helps your child get along with other children better?

 

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