Day 31 - The Healing Process - Identify The Hurt

Marriage Course - September 14, 2012

Day 28 - Understanding Anger

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Reactions to hurt

1. Anger
• some are like rhinos-they attack when provoked
• some are like hedgehogs-they withdraw when threatened

2. Retaliation
• to let our partner know what the hurt felt like

3. Fear
• we withdraw so as not to be hurt again

4. Guilt
• hurt will always be caused by both partners

Question:Identify whether you are a rhino or hedgehog. If you're not sure, ask your partner.

From Series: "Marriage"

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take the initiative to resolve anger and heal hurt
recognize the ways in which you have caused pain to your partner and hurt your marriage (see Matthew 5: 23-24 in the Bible)
be prepared to tell your partner when you have been hurt (see Matthew 18: 15 in the Bible)