• say back to them what you think they are trying to express, particularly their feelings use some of their own words and phrases

8. Respond appropriately

• give guidance and reassurance
• they are likely to remember our words for years to come

9. Take a long-term view

• sometimes any meaningful communicationwith teenagers can be a big struggle
• difficulties are usually the result of a phase they’re going through
• try to create the conditions for conversation to become easier, at mealtimes; spending time with them doing what they enjoy; using their love language
• if worried, seek professional help and/or medical support

Role play with another adult.  Have them share a typical teenage problem with you, and reflect back what they’ve said.  Go back and forth for a few minutes, then switch.  What was easy or hard about this?