Marriage Course - September 9, 2012

Day 23 - Learn to Negotiate - Identify and Discuss the Issue

Identify the issue

Discuss the issue rather than attack each other
• avoid labelling "you never ... "you always”
• use "I" statements e.g., (I feel undervalued when)
• listen to your partner (allow them to hold the table napkin when speaking as described earlier)

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Why is some conflict inevitable in every marriage?

  • we are different-different backgrounds, priorities, desires, personalities, opinions
  • no good trying to force our partner to do things our way
  • must see ourselves as being on the same side (3-legged race)
  • we are naturally self-centered
  • need to ask ourselves, “Are there ways I need to change for the sake of our partnership?”

Does the inevitability of conflict in marriage surprise you?  Why?  How does it challenge or affirm your approach to conflict?