Thursday - Act On It - Neighbours to Acquaintances
Time and availability allows us to get acquainted with those near us. You may be discouraged, thinking I’m talking about adding things to your already busy schedule. Sometimes that’s necessary, but usually it’s just about making intentional choices to Love God, Love Neighbour in the midst of daily life.
Think about your downtime – how can downtime connect me with neighbours?
First, be interruptible. I used to have a retired neighbour who was often outside, and always up for a chat. His availability meant I could ask him for a ladder, to get the mail while we were away, etc. My availability to stop and chat meant he could ask me questions about the theology of the church he grew up attending.
You can also make other choices. Stick around on weekends instead of going away. Play in the front yard instead of the back. Putter around your garden, walk the neighbourhood, and read on your porch.
Ask questions, talk about the weather, laugh about something that happened. Ask for referrals – who did your driveway/kitchen/landscaping? Ask about the neighbourhood – how’s X doing? Share something – let someone park in your driveway for a party, or share newspapers.
As you do, get to know their name, and then a bit of their story.
Challenge: Look at your calendar and see how you spend your time over the last two weeks. Reflect on how this compares with your priorities. How can you spend more time with your neighbours, to get acquainted?
Have you ever felt judged?
According to Psychology Science magazine, it takes just a 10th of a second for us to make snap judgements about character, trust, and competence based on visual first impressions.
When you first heard Rob Ford was accused of using crack cocaine, how did you react?
Many reacted with judgement, having already decided he was "that kind of person". But according to a poll of people's support for potential mayoral candidates for the next election, 27% still support him, and that did not change with the most recent allegations. This has a lot to do with prejudices one way or the other.
We make judgements all the time. Is that good, or bad?
Question: How do you react to the idea of judgement? Is it ever okay for someone to judge another? Why or why not?